Zach loves minecraft and I got the free version of it on his iPad and I made sure it was the creative version with no creepers or zombies. Zach is addicted to it, so addicted that his toys aren't being played with even Lego is being neglected.
On Saturday morning was auskick, I told Zach he needed to join in and be involved, we had a few good mornings at the start and it went downhill. I told him if he didn't get involved I would get rid of minecraft , I don't think he thought I would follow through with the threat.
I wasn't asking him to talk or look at the other children or make eye contact with them, just wait in line when he has to and kick or handball the ball when it is his turn and to participate in the warm ups. He didn't and was refusing to take part in everything, even in the games as well.
When time to go home, as we getting into the car I asked him if he thought he joined in, he said "no". We got home and I took minecraft and a few other games of the iPad. There were major tears, yelling and hitting, I did not give in.
I told him if he joined in at the next auskick, minecraft or another game could come back on the ipad. That afternoon he went to his dad's house and ten minutes after I dropped him off, I got a phone call from Zach's father. Zach was upset enough to tell his dad about the not joining in and minecraft deletion. Zach can be hard to decipher and I had to explain it all.
I had to force the issue because he does tend to be addicted to the screens, games or tv or computers to the point of ignoring everything else. but sometimes it is just so hard to deal with anger and tears that comes with enforcing rules
So that afternoon, before a night shift, I went to the MSO at the Melbourne town hall, Mozart 'symphony 41' and Holst 'the planets' . I went with a friends younger sister, I hasn't seen her in over twenty years I think. A bit random, I had a spare ticket and asked on Facebook for someone to take it. We meet under the clocks, the last time I saw her, she was maybe 8 years old, recognised her straight away. Funny how you can know someone years after not seeing them, they change but still look the same and you can still pick them out of a crowd.